I Am Late For an Important Date
Avoid SIS. What is it? What causes it? What are the most common forms of treatment? Here are some answers.
SIS is Self Imposed Stress. This is a condition caused when an otherwise non-stressful event is made stressful by circumstances within the control of the person enduring the stress.
Here is an example. Leave for the airport too close to departure time. Then, endure the stress while standing in line waiting to pass through security. Note, it is avoidable - leave earlier. Hence, it is self imposed stress (SIS).
SIS occurs every day in an assortment of ways. Sometimes it is starting too late when getting ready to go to the movie. Other times, it is sleeping that extra five minutes and then stressing while sitting in traffic. Regardless of the circumstances, it creates a condition that is obvious to bystanders. Worse yet, it is contagious - the stress typically spreads to everyone who comes in contact with it (except teenage children). It should be noted that in some extreme cases, SIS can result in total shut down.
There are several difference causes of SIS. Most times, it is a common case of insufficient planning. Basically, it occurs when there is simply no calculation of how long each of the many activities on the schedule will take. One significant complicating factor of this condition is the steady addition of items to the task list. So, what starts as a realistic, albeit optimistic, schedule quickly turns into an impossible list of things that can never be done. (Some call this
"trying to do too much.")
There are other causes. There are reports of the condition based on - what has been referred to as - no sense of time. Without a clock or stopwatch, ten minutes feels the same as two hours. The time just passes with no real comprehension that time is passing at a rapid clip.
As others pensively watch, the appointed time approaches, and there does not appear to be any real appreciation of what is happening. But there is. Internally, the SIS is building and looking for a single moment of release. When it appears that this is happening, avoid all contact. Nothing good will happened when the release occurs.
Some have suggested that SIS can be an addictive condition. Basically, this school of thought is that nothing can be really accomplished in an efficient way absent the adrenaline rush from knowing that deadlines are at hand. Hence, there is a pattern of manic rushes of activity in connection with scheduled events such as guests coming over or trips out of town.
There are some treatments that have been recommended. The most common is called "forensic planning." This involves a technique of scheduling backward from a preset deadline. So, if dinner is at 7:00, and it takes 30 minutes to leave work (or get ready), then start at 6:30.
Another treatment involves something known as "time fudging." If the event actually starts at 7:30, then say 7:00 so that 7:30 is actually on time.
Treating SIS can itself cause SIS. Some folks are really sensitive about it. So, always discuss broaching the subject of SIS with a friend or colleague before actually raising it. Another option is to leave this important information regarding SIS and its treatment in a conspicuous place.